Morning everyone, it is been a very long time since the last time I posted here as my contemplation journey. Being immersed in college activity or any useless thing distracted me to keep writing on my blogs. But this morning, I dedicate myself to convey something that I just read during my social media scrolling routine. 

There are so many sayings that state there are only two main feelings as a foundation for the other; Love and Hate. People who're adoring something will be automatically assumed as someone who is in love. And people who're irritated on something may be judged as someone in hate. Nothing wrong with that since those two feelings are easily being observed and such kind of the opposite for each other. Someone who's in love with something means they do not hate on that particular thing; and vice-versa. 

But, have you ever wondered that is the concept really compromised? Is it always justified to conclude that hate is the foundation among the other feeling? At first, I can say that I agree with the concept until I found one single tweet yesterday. A single tweet that made me contemplate the concept for the rest of the day. They said that the concept is not fully right. The two foundation feelings are not love and hate but love and fear. 

I have nothing to do with love since I completely agree with the idea of love itself. Love in many ways makes people meet the butterfly in their stomachache, feeling happy, satisfied, or even serenity. Love in particular circumstances becomes a breath for someone to stand any longer during turbulence. And also love sometimes is the reason why someone sincerely does something even it is considered tiring for others. 

Fear itself; it never comes up in my mind to realize that fear is actually the source of any other feeling and projections. People loving someone so much just because they fear for loss. People being insecure just because they fear for rejection. People perform any bad attitude as in corruption just because they fear being poor. And people are being obsessed and jealous just because they fear of ignorance. So, this point of view made me realize that fear becomes an underpinning factor that might lead people into another feeling and projection.

Nothing becomes special and valuable once we don't know how to deal with it, isn't it? As someone who is still premature to cope with the whole world story pushes me to note it as an assignment that needs to be done; dealing with love and fear. It is cannot be justified to over glorify love as a source of happiness and either hates as the source of sadness. There is a grey area between both of those which potentially threaten us to live and shape our perspective to see something.  It is because both of those will drive us to be in a vulnerability when we are not ready enough to be immersed in those kinds of feelings.

Furthermore, love is possibly leading us to be in misery when it becomes hate just because of some particular reasons. For instance, we put our love to something or someone too much that made us fear for the loss. And the fear will nurture us to project the negativity in any terrible habits. Being embed in those feelings is actually tricky and so threatening after all. We need to be wise to see deeper and observe what is actually happening and being resilient on what is probably going to happen. 

We have nothing to do with these two natural feelings after all. Love and fear have a role to be attached to every single living creature. As I aforementioned above it brings us to the conclusion that the key is on the 'over' word itself. Love is good, but when we overly love something or someone, it cannot be compromised anymore. It also needs to be considered in hate either. 

Meanwhile, controlled and stay grounded is another way to keep us insane. I used to instill myself with the idea of being aware that we have nothing to do with how someone reacts to us, or someone feeling about us. But we fully have control over how we react to someone's attitude and our own further feeling. Remember that we also need to be aware of our present self, not the past or upcoming and indefinite future circumstances. Being grounded makes us more focused and grateful for any little things that surround us. And at the end, I want to remind us to take care of our souls because they might be tired but cannot convey their feeling. Try to be more sensitive and it will help us to understand what is actual love and fear.